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Finding your strength in adversity

Finding your strength in adversity

I felt so pulled to write something about this for the last few days, as my own healing journey continues surrounding the abuse of my daughter and myself as a child and my ability to stand strong in what I know is right, rather than what is convenient or less confronting for others.

I see many others around me starting to step into their power, sometimes a little wobbly at first, and I wanted to write this for them. To know, you can be strong in the face of adversity - no matter the scale or depth of pain and wrongdoing.

But standing strong for what you know is true and right, in the face of adversity, can be one of the most difficult things to do. Especially if you suffer any level of low self esteem, a lack of boundaries or the consequences of standing up are huge and life changing for you and others.

Initially it feels like it would be so much easier to accommodate, to please, to turn a blind eye.

There is a reason why so much injustice, disrespect, mistreatment, abuse and straight up evil is enabled in the world. Even if people don't agree with it, it is easier (atleast in the short term) to allow, than to stand up. To keep the peace. To keep what feels normal, and comfortable, even if it is dysfunctional.

It takes a strength to stand up, that is sometimes hard to cultivate. Especially if you are the only one.

But I encourage you beautiful ones, to stand up anyway.

To ask yourself, is it truly easier not to?

I can tell you, if you stand up, even in the face of adversity, it is easier to look yourself in the mirror and feel solid. It is much harder to feel good about the person you see looking back if you haven't.

It is easier to hold your head high in life. It is harder to feel like a person of integrity if you haven't.

It is easier to keep connecting with your intuition and heart space - because you haven't shut it down or overruled it. It is harder to find clarity when you continue to shut down and doubt.

It is easier to find those who are truly aligned with you as those who are not will simply fall away. It is harder to feel like you 'fit in' if you hold onto things that no longer serve you, out of fear of the unknown or being alone.

These things give me strength in times of adversity - because I know what is truly easier.

I hope this helps you find your strength in those challenging times. Take a birds eye view and ask, what is truly easier?

Your strength will be there.

In love,

Jess x

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